widdershins

To walk "widdershins" is to walk counterclockwise or backward around something. It's a classic pathway into the fairy realm. It's also the way people often back slowly into the relationships that matter, the real ones that make for a life.


"Remember how it was when we were young? It was a dance, couples pairing up, together one month, the next everybody has a new partner, sometimes from within your social circle, other times a stranger brought in, but there was always this ebb and flow, like a tide, as though dating and love were a game of musical chairs, except you played it with your heart.
As I've gotten older, I've found that we seem to divide into two camps: the ones who keep a partner and settle down, maybe have kids, maybe buy a house; and the ones who stay in the musical-chairs dance and end up living on their own, who are on their own for longer and longer periods of time until they grow to like their solitary lifestyle - or at least accept it. Some keep a hope buried for that certain someone to fall into their lives, but nobody's really looking anymore. Or they're not looking hard.
It's hard to pinpoint exactly when that happens.
For me, hope runs eternal, even though my relationships never really work out in the long run. Maybe I set my sights too high. Maybe I'm just hopeless. I don't know. Or maybe I just never met the right person, for all the times I thought I did.
Or maybe I did meet the right person, but I never knew it and went out with their sibling or friend instead.
Or maybe I did know it, but I told myself it was never going to work out......"

-Charles de Lint

It's amusing sometimes when you pose a question to a book....and find this!

Random Question #1

So. I was thinking, and thinking, and thinking, and thinking. (I was working. Not much else i could do but think, and think, and think, and think.) Anyways. I ended up somehow with a question, which i decided i should post here, for you to answer, because i'm curious.
(This question led to me thinking of other questions, and so now i'm thinking we should make a habit out of asking random questions here.)

Here is the scenario:

Imagine you are in some alternate reality. You will be in this alternate reality for one night. (Don't ask me how many hours the night is. I don't know. Till sunrise, say. Whatever.)

In this one night, you are given the opportunity to be **intimate** with one person, ANYONE, with no consequences at all. (They have to be alive. This is the only rule.) It doesn't matter if you are single or not or they are single or not, or they don't know you, or they hate you, etc. All of this magically vanishes for some reason and there is absolutely no consequence whatsoever. There is no restriction and you will not feel guilt either. (Like i said, this is some crazy alternate reality.) You are completely FREE.
Oh and obviously whoever you pick is going to be into it too. And i don't know why there are no consequences either, maybe that guy from Heroes comes and erases everyone's memory. I don't know.
Anyone, anywhere, whoever you want....one night. No consequence, no guilt, no limitations, nothing. Who?

**edit**: There has been some confusion over what 'intimate' is referring to in my question. I could say physically intimate, but i'm not sure that clarifies it completely...i know i didn't mean, you want to sit around and hold hands, but that could be part of it...yes, i meant you want to sleep with them. and i guess using the word intimate would imply an emotional intensity...i guess it just depends...if you wanted to use this one opportunity to be with someone who you just want purely physically, that would be your choice...and that's a whole other discussion, isn't it? (can you want someone JUST physically? i'll save that for later)

(ps: saying you wouldn't do it at ALL is NOT an option. give me a break. oh yeah and 'i would pick my partner, i don't want to do anyone else'? don't even bother saying that, either. you are human. so, that's bunk too.)

It sounds easy to answer, doesn't it. It's not. I can't. That's why I posted it.
Think about it.
Don't be shy, i want to hear answers. Feel free to answer anonymously.....
And don't underestimate the question.

sex, question, random, reality, fantasy

...?!??!?

where in the hell is toon and stas???
have they accidentally forgotten about me??
did i get dressed for nothing??
or am i missing something that i cannot see........

is it wise to leave the old great one??
is it wise to climb a tree??
did the elephant really like the sky
or did his trunk get tangled in the sea......

the snowflake says it is not so
she says the world is free
tells the world to hold her head up high
and to let things be still; just be...........

poem, thoughts, random, meditation

...??!?

Where the hell is my fn Telus bill? Accidentally sucked up in the black hole of my car??!?

...?!?

Where the hell is my fn brain? Accidentally left on Nardo?! lol

love you tosh

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Where the hell are my fn needles? Accidentally shipped to Mars??!?

a return to love

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you NOT to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us, it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love, prayer, inspiration

..?..

Human beings are temporal dynamics of Shannon information in physical states. There is no "stuff." Stuff is an illusion generated by a brain adapted to deal with complex regularities of the macroscopic world as if they were substances. You are dynamics of information in a probability distribution, dynamics distributed over an unimaginable number of changes and interactions, stretched over an incredibly long time period. If you are the same person you were 10/43 Planck increments ago, even though all of the matter waves in your body have shifted places, why would you not be the same person after a slightly different interation within the same huge wavefunction?
-Eliezer S. Yudkowsky

Eliezer S. Yudkowsky, mindfuck, probabilities, matter

i should not be left alone with sexy mrs. wine.....

ass, butt, sexy, lingerie, booty

How NOT to open a bottle of wine......

wine, humor, humour, alcohol

a peek at toons late bd present......

I thought I would take the time to tease toon about her late birthday present. I had no idea it would take me sooooo long to complete. But alas, part of it is done! Now to start on the other half. Unfortunately, when I cast on for the second part, I accidentally broke my precious birch needle in half. Because of this I went ahead and spent some money on some very expensive, but fancy metal needles. Now I have to wait for them to be shipped before I can continute with the present. I was hoping to be done before the summer months.......


I thought I would give toon a sneak peek because I feel bad.....


So toon....this one's for you!

See all those tiny tiny stitches? Aren't they pretty?

To get a feel for what I had to go through in knitting this I give you the following instructions:

1. Go to the kitchen and open up your junk cupboard.

2. Grab your container of toothpicks and remove 5.

3. Now, dig out some sewing thread.

4. Wrap 80 knots around one toothpick.

5. Take 2 more toothpicks and divide these 80 knots onto three toothpicks in an even amount.

6. Take the remaining toothpick and start knitting away.

7. Three years from now, your present would be completed and you can happily display how it does not fit.

knitting, humor, humour, birthday present